My Almost Eight Year Old Has Had Difficult School Year. My Husband And I Are Very Involved!?
Posted by IT CommentatorOct 1
We’ve met with his teacher several times, the principal sevearl times, and now, there seems to be a lot of tension between his teacher and I. I have had to challenge much of what she saids. I will confer with sources at the school who don’t have the experience with my son, or they’ve viewed some of his meltdowns and don’t give the same discription. I believe in consequences good and bad, but my instinct tells me my son’ts teacher is past the phase where she is willing to be patient…I mean when you say “GET OUT…JUST GO TO THE BATHROOM AND GET YOURSELF TOGETHER.” and you claim you doing this in a calm manner, I have to question the authenticity of this comment. We have strategies in place (counting, breathing, leaving the class for a little bit until he cools down” etc). He has a very difficult time implementing those strategies before the meltdowns. He feels ashamed, embrassed, sad because he let me down etc. Initially I was more understanding, then I grew frustrated, began yelling, now I’m at the point where I really don’t want to break his spirit so although I make sure he understands I don’t approve of inappropriate behaviors, I feel horrible he is having such a difficult school year. (I take extras like tv, games,etc) away, I have taken a step back and just kind tried to understand his perspective. He always apologizes, but the same thing happens a few days later. I am so 111ready for the school year to be over with, sigh….I love my child…help
It sounds to me like you really need for your own peace of mind move your child to another classroom. I know that sometimes as much as a teacher tries, they just don’t connect with some children on a level that is acceptable with the child. Apparently she doesn’t communicate to your son the way he needs her to communicate. That would not be his or her fault, maybe she is not understanding what she really needs to do to fix the situation. But then again, maybe she has given up on your son, you feel the frustration at home with his issues and its tough for you to deal with, and you love him. If you didn’t love him and he were someone else’s kid, it would be a totally different mind set for you. Transfer him to another class meet with the teacher in advance to let her know what challenges she will face and let her know that you are there 100% for your son and to help him get through this tough year. I hope it gets better my son’s 4th grade teacher hated him, even though they had the same hobbies, and were both tree huggers she just never liked my child, he got decent grades and she wasn’t horrible to him, but she was very cold towards him all the time. I tell him hopefully that is the only teacher you ever don’t like.
See if they have a Sylvan Learning Center in your area, they are great for kids like your son and he will be breezing through his classes in no time. Get him in as soon as possible and he will learn to do well in school and excel like never before.
Maybe you need to get to the cause of these meltdowns. Most kids do not have meltdowns unless there are problems. Figuring that out will be a start
Has he had these problems with other teachers? Some teachers and students are just not good together and you can demand that he be moved to another class. The school will try to say no but if you insist, they must do it.
Is their a resource room or therapist you can talk to ? All public schools have access to an assistant “Grandparent” or aide, who can come into your son’s class just to shadow him and help him learn to cope.
There are tons of resources out there that schools ignore because they don’t want to take the effort.
If the school doesn’t help, go to the superintendent. Talk to your son’s doctor. There is so much help available.
I hope you find a solution soon because your son doesn’t need to be in a difficult situation for long. If it continues, he will fall behind or hate school.
Bravo to you for being involved enough to look for help.